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Self Love

It seems like Christmas and New Year was just a min ago. Right after New Year, I was at my local Walmart, and lord and behold, the entire store had pretty much turned into a Valentine’s Theme. So I’ve noticed a trend that seems to be pretty much everywhere. That trend is that Valentine ads is 99% of the time  targeted towards couples, boyfriends, girlfriends, ex-girlfriend, lol, bottom line ( partner/lovers)  but as I get older I appreciate that Valentine isn’t all about having a significant other, Although,  There is no greater love besides God , however self-Love is the ultimate Love one can give from oneself to thy self ! Yes I said it, Don’t get me wrong, it a beautiful thing to have a loving partner, and I very much love and appreciate that, however one’s individual self-love is Super Important. Your self-love determines how you relate with others.

With the  high fast increase in the use of social media, a lot of people find themselves, comparing their lives to someone else’s controlled posted content.  Some may desire , The need to have that spouse that flies them all over the world on first class buying you the Gucci and channels  and that diamond rock 💍💍💍 that can blind a sister . BUT ,

Sisters ! Listen up !  Even if you attain this sort of life style , if your joy as no depth other than material things or relaying solely on a man”s love , your life may still feel empty .  There is a surge of taste that often comes with flirting one”s life style , marriage or relationship on social media and keeping up with the Jones . Nothing I repeat beats self love . Refrain from comparing your self to another human”s life .it is mentally unhealthy. For instance , If your hubby is only able to take you to a fast food verses a luxurious restaurants most people post on line, still be grateful and appreciate that moment . Do not let social media rush you ! 

The more I see this prevailing the more I have found myself purposefully digging myself in the word of God, to ensure I don’t lose sight of what is important…. GOD.. periodT

So my love’s if you are single this Valentine, be sure to celebrate yourself, and life, look around you and appreciate all you have and of course , look absolutely your best while doing that. Which brings me to this lovely look and inspo I created for valentine”s day , whether you spend it alone , family , children or significant other , it ought to be special .  So let get down to my Valentine Day Look , Shall we, Can I just say I absolutely loooove this dress from kairosshoppers… It is giving me Life.. 

I wish each and everyone one of you a beautiful and joyous valentine”s day to come ! Remember when you have a plus ( heart beat ) , God must have a plan!!

love y’all !

Bag here:

 Dress via Kairosshoppers 

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Bio: My name is Lola aka lollysticks and I am a plus size fashion blogger from Nigeria based in the states. I am also the co- Founder of Kairosshoppers, an online market place & destination for fashion forward individual. I have been a curvy girl all my life but that has never stopped my longing to be stylish and trendy. While it has sometimes been difficult, I have learned throughout the years how to dress my frame in the most flattering ways possible. I definitely live by the saying “Dress to fit your body” however that doesn’t mean that you can’t take current fashion and make them work for you. I saw a gap in the market many years ago that plus size dolls, weren’t been celebrated neither was the fashion industry paying attention to the need to create flattering clothing for us. So in order to show that, I decided to start my blog as well as design with the catch phrase “lollysticks in partnership with my business kairosshoppers” My mission and my goal was simple – to show that curvy women can be just as stylish and fabulous as everyone else. Since my debut, of, I have being featured in some publications such as Huffman Post, Bellanaijaweddings. Etc. I look forward to many more features and publications.

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  1. SHOL
    1 year ago


  2. PEJU
    1 year ago

    lollysticks, I love her page. super classy babe


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